Ah, the internet—the place where people will confidently share their opinions, even when literally no one asked. We’ve seen this firsthand recently, with a few of our Rebel Love Club reels going viral (over a million views!) and, naturally, attracting a flood of comments from folks who just had to give their two cents. But why do people feel the need to do this? And how do we protect our mental well-being when social media starts feeling like an open forum for negativity?
Why Do People Feel the Need to Share Unsolicited Opinions?
The Illusion of Expertise - Social media gives everyone a platform, and with that comes the belief that their opinion is just as valid (if not more valid) than anyone else’s. Many love playing the role of the expert, even without any real experience in what they’re commenting on.
The Need for Validation - Some people crave likes and replies on a comment—it's their little dopamine hit that tells them their perspective is worth sharing, regardless of whether anyone asked for it.
Anonymity Breeds Boldness - Online, people say things they’d never dare say face-to-face. The safety of a screen makes them bolder, ruder, and often downright cruel, because real-life consequences seem far away.
Mistaking Personal Preference for Universal Truth - Just because someone wouldn’t do something themselves, they assume it must be wrong for everyone else. Instead of scrolling past, they feel compelled to impose their viewpoint.
A Love for Complaining - Let’s face it—some people simply thrive on negativity. The internet gives them a stage to complain about things that, in the grand scheme of life, really don’t affect them at all.
When Unsolicited Opinions Hit Home - Weddings and Beyond
This phenomenon isn’t confined to the digital world—it translates right into our personal lives, especially around weddings. Whether it's family, friends, or even acquaintances, unsolicited advice about your wedding plans can feel invasive. People might insist on critiquing your dress, your venue, or even how you plan your day, often with the best of intentions but sometimes with a side of judgment. Just like online, these opinions are more about the speaker's biases and less about what you truly want. It's essential to remember that your wedding is your celebration—your vision, your love, and your day. Take in what resonates and politely filter out the noise.
How to Protect Your Mental Health from the Opinion Overload
Remember: It’s Not About You - Unsolicited opinions say more about the giver than they do about you. Their negativity is theirs to manage, not yours.
Curate Your Space - Whether online or offline, feel empowered to block, mute, or simply ignore voices that don’t add value to your day.
Don’t Engage with the Trolls - Some opinions are meant to provoke. Often, the best reaction is no reaction—let them yell into the void.
Set Clear Boundaries - Decide what advice matters and what doesn’t. If something starts stressing you out, take a step back. Your mental health is paramount.
Focus on the Good - For every negative comment, there’s usually a heap of love and support. Let those voices guide you.
At the end of the day, unsolicited opinions aren’t going anywhere. But you get to choose how much room they occupy in your life. Whether it’s about your wedding plans or your online posts, let the noise fade into the background while you keep living, loving, and doing you.
How do you filter out the unsolicited opinions in your life? Let us know in the comments below!
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